I got this book and it is a cute little read. One of the spreads is called “get over it” and it really applies to me:
“After observing children, psychologists tell us that a healthy amount of time to feel an emotion is five to eight minutes. If it lingers past that, we are holding on to something.”
I tend to hold on to stuff that upsets me – I got a ding in my car, and I tried to be upset for only eight minutes. I couldn’t do it. It was more like three hours. Then today I had to turn away a bride that someone else booked her date. I am first come first served, but she wanted me to call her if someone asked about her date. I don’t normally do this, but I said yes. Well, go figure – someone called and wanted to book the date right then over the phone. So I had to call her and tell her she lost the date. She was really upset and I felt terrible! It was much more than eight minutes of agony for me. From now on I am not calling people to give them the status of the date – they need to just check with me!